Sleeper Sell-Out* | Parroting the Narrative

(An open memo to News and Press Gangs)

Further to the 2022 post: “A Short Message to 'News Reporters,'”¹ Déjà Vu Times once again suggests that “reporters” wake up to the reality of a 360° world. Your most recent media scrums and press questions relating to gender-affirming care and coercive consensus seem to come only from a 30% Gen-Z worldview,² so how about taking several unscripted week-ends to review the facts of the "Fringe" 70%. You know: the stuff your captured press bosses don’t care to know or spread abroad, like

▪ trans regret.
▪ de-transitioners by the thousands.
▪ botched surgeries.
▪ surgeon and Pharma windfalls.
▪ life-long complications and after-care.
▪ coercive affirmation.
▪ forbidden reversion counselling.
▪ the science of propaganda, persuasion, power.
▪ the science of social media influencers, addictions, contagions.
▪ and on and on.

If you think the Fringe 70% (including many Gen-Zs and Alphas) don’t understand the 30% gender-view that your press pushes upon the world, you’re wrong. Many of the Fringe know

▪ the science and history of adolescent development.³
▪ the science of selling, marketing, trending, fashion, and adverts.
▪ the science and histories of profiteering, propaganda, persuasion, viral contagion.
▪ the use, misuse, and manufacture of motivated, blame-game, fear-factor stats.
▪ the history of unethical medical experimentation worldwide.
▪ the dystopian notions of censorship, control, coercion.
▪ the science of pscience.⁴
▪ and on and on.

So, if you don’t know where to begin informing yourself, maybe start here with Dr. Alex Laungani, a Quebec plastic (and transgender) surgeon, presenting TG information not meant for public distribution outside the conference, but obtained by The Daily Caller News Foundation through a records request.⁵

After Laungani, the only limit is one’s time and integrity. To add to an excess of videos available for the mere searching, here are a few book suggestions:

● Meerloo, Dr. Joost A. M. The Rape of the Mind: The Psychology of Thought Control, Menticide, and Brainwashing
● Storr, Will. Selfie: How We Became So Self-Obsessed and What It's Doing to Us
● Milgram, Stanley. Obedience to Authority: An Experimental View (Perennial Classics)
● Simpson, Christopher. Science of Coercion: Communication Research & Psychological Warfare, 1945–1960 
● Bernays, Edward. Crystallizing Public Opinion
● Cialdini, Robert B.. Influence, New and Expanded
● Greene, Robert. The Art of Seduction
● Lippmann, Walter. Public Opinion
● MacKay, Charles. Extraordinary Popular Delusions and the Madness of Crowds
● Hall, John. Guinea Pigs: Technologies of Control
● Herman, Edward S.; Chomsky, Noam. Manufacturing Consent: The Political Economy of the Mass Media
● Bloom, Howard. The Lucifer Principle: A Scientific Expedition into the Forces of History
● Browning, Christopher R.. Ordinary Men

Videos added Feb 25, 2024
● Interview: Will Jazz Become an Advocate Against Trans Healthcare? - Σ𝕏ulansic
(Genspect | Feb 24, 2024 | Time 5:59 min.) at
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JW0k-kYBOlw
(archived at https://archive.org)
● Dr. Phil Dismantles Trans Ideology on Joe Rogan
(Amala Ekpunobi | Feb 24, 2024 | Time 29:24 min.) at
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8NebOChsAtI
(archived at https://archive.org)

So, before you again parrot the narrative of “gender” sovereign-truth and the faux-crime of (de)conversion⁶; and before you again parrot the clichés of self-obsessed diva / divo (SOD) activists –

THINK!

Think how much progress and privacy SOD activists have ruined for genuine dysphorics who just want to live their lives without demanding that the world affirm, applaud, and pay bending homage to their choice. They wish to attend social, sports, or other functions in their chosen persona without fanfare and without the narcissistic need to have the entire event and all actors, athletes, and audience roll out the rainbow / pastel carpet in spectacular welcome, which, by the way, violates every one of their trumpeted mantras: diversity, equity, inclusion. Where is the diversity and equity in excluding everyone who is not SOD in the special recognition and affirmation of their lifestyle? Where is the DEI in their vociferous demands for special privilege and exemption from criticism or challenge or hurt feelings?⁷

PONDER:

Charles MacKay: “In reading the history of nations, we find that, like individuals, they have their whims and their peculiarities; their seasons of excitement and recklessness, when they care not what they do. We find that whole communities suddenly fix their minds upon one object, and go mad in its pursuit; that millions of people become simultaneously impressed with one delusion, and run after it, till their attention is caught by some new folly more captivating than the first. We see one nation suddenly seized, from its highest to its lowest members, with a fierce desire of military glory; another as suddenly becoming crazed upon a religious scruple, and neither of them recovering its senses until it has shed rivers of blood and sowed a harvest of groans and tears, to be reaped by its posterity (p. 6). ... Men, it has been well said, think in herds; it will be seen that they go mad in herds, while they only recover their senses slowly, and one by one” (p. 7).⁸

INVESTIGATE.

   Stop selling out the future.
      Stop parroting the narrative of feelings over facts.
          Wake-up to patterns of madness and corruption.
               Wake-up to history.
                  Wake-up to reality.
                      Wake-up to your own integrity.

Which will it be?

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*For a pictorial history of the Press see: https://moc-n-dox.blogspot.com/2023/04/a-pictorial-history-of-cbc-et-al.html

1. https://dejavu-times.blogspot.com/2022/11/a-short-message-to-news-reporters.html
2. Nearly 30% of Gen Z adults identify as LGBTQ, national survey finds https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-news/nearly-30-gen-z-adults-identify-lgbtq-national-survey-finds-rcna135510
ICYMI: New Data Shows that Nearly 30% of Gen Z Adults Identify as LGBTQ+ https://www.hrc.org/press-releases/icymi-new-data-shows-that-nearly-30-of-gen-z-adults-identify-as-lgbtq
3. Various theories and studies on Developmental Psychology: Piaget, Erikson, Marcia, Kohlberg, Bandura, Vygotsky, Spitz, Bowlby, Harlow, Ainsworth, Bettelheim, K&M Clark, Maccoby, Gelman, Dasen, Sheehy, et al.
4.  Pscience is the corrupted offshoot of honorable Science. It is the inevitable consequence of man's obsessive pursuit and protection of power, gain, glory, and domination. Pscience is pseudo, psychopathic, propagandizing, plagiarizing, politicized, psy-opic, and above all, profit-obsessed, and profit-driven. This obsessive pursuit and protection by people without conscience is often enabled by naïve, trusting, or fear-filled acolytes. Pscience is a one-faith, one-dogma, heretic-fearing, self-deceiving, other-censoring system.
https://dejavu-timestwo.blogspot.com/2021/12/when-pscience-becomes-god.html
https://dejavu-times.blogspot.com/2021/06/death-of-science-tyranny-of-pscience.html
https://dejavu-times.blogspot.com/2020/10/pscience.html
https://dejavu-times.blogspot.com/2021/07/a-representative-history-of-pscience.html
5. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13092239/Top-Canadian-surgeon-unwittingly-reveals-TRUTH-sex-change-ops-unearthed-video-lifts-lid-ill-trained-doctors-dying-appendages-dreaded-complications.html
They’re MUTILATING children in the name of progress (TrueNorthCentre | Feb 20, 2024 | 25:14 min) at https://rumble.com/v4eo2cc-february-20-2024.html
6. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conversion_therapy. Malevolently misnomered as the trans-conversion has already taken place. For de-trans people, it puts one more hurdle to recovery as therapists can be charged for helping a trans-regret revert (de-convert) from trans-conversion.
7. See also: 
   ▪ https://dejavu-timestwo.blogspot.com/2023/04/let-us-be-clear.html
   ▪ https://dejavu-times.blogspot.com/2023/03/dei-ology-great-pretense.html
   ▪ https://dejavu-times.blogspot.com/2023/04/correction-fwoke.html
8. MacKay, Charles. Extraordinary Popular Delusions and the Madness of Crowds (Illustrated) Kindle Edition. (Bold emphasis added.)

Re-education for the CPO*!

[*College of Psychologists of Ontario – and all other Colleges (or governing bodies) that have fallen into advocacy for Pscience¹ Omnipotence (also known as CPOs — Colleges of Pscience Omnipotence]

Within the past three years, governing bodies worldwide have taken to censoring members and threatening their licenses for offending the powers and for resisting the pscience of conformity and World Order (WO) — aka Tyranny. One of the latest is the College of Psychologists of Ontario vis-à- vis Jordan B. Peterson² whose wide-ranging contributions to honest inquiry and truth-seeking are perhaps unparalleled in this 21st Century. His contributions can no longer be tolerated by the P-3³ powers and the WOKE⁴ lords, and thus this intensified targeting with these three main agendas:

1) censor, distract, intimidate, and forestall JBP from exposing more of the hypocrisy and lies of power pursuers, abusers, and protectors;
2) interrupt further honest inquiry and truth-seeking / -speaking by JBP; and
3) intimidate others from expressing opinions, beliefs, or facts that offend the powers and their narratives.

So, in the spirit of [JBP] gander & [CPO] geese⁵: let the geese re-education begin with intensive, mandatory re-education of:

●  the historical battle for fundamental freedoms;
●  the contents, meaning, and constitutionality of Bills and Charters of Rights both national and international;
●  the DSM-V definitions of mental illness that many medical and mental health professionals are now normalizing;
●  the difference between science and pscience⁶;
●  the power and courage of one or two in opposing harmful or abusive  conformity⁷;
●  the frequent self-deception, narcissism, and psychopathy of power pursuers, abusers, protectors
●  the science and abuse of mind control, e.g.:
   • Bloom, Howard. The Lucifer Principle: A Scientific Expedition into the Forces of History.
   • Meerloo, Dr. Joost A. M.. The Rape of the Mind: The Psychology of Thought Control, Menticide, and Brainwashing.
   • Simpson, Christopher. Science of Coercion: Communication Research & Psychological Warfare, 1945–1960 (Forbidden Bookshelf)
   • Zimbardo, Philip. The Lucifer Effect: Understanding How Good People Turn Evil.
●  etc. as the spirit of true science dictates.

With satisfactory re-education, board members could rename themselves the CFPO: The College of Free Psychologists of Ontario.

All those in favor of CPO re-ed , please inform  them:
    General E-mail: cpo@cpo.on.ca
    Telephone: (416) 961-8817
    Toll Free: (800) 489-8388
    Fax: (416) 961-2635

[A dose of their own medicine?!]

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* https://cpo.on.ca/

1. Pscience is the corrupted offshoot of honorable Science. It is the inevitable consequence of man's obsessive pursuit and protection of power, gain, glory, and domination. Pscience is pseudo, psychopathic, propagandizing, plagiarizing, politicized, psy-opic, and above all, profit-obsessed, and profit-driven. This obsessive pursuit and protection by people without conscience is often enabled by naïve, trusting, or fear-filled acolytes. Pscience is a one-faith, one-dogma, heretic-fearing, self-deceiving, other-censoring system.
https://dejavu-timestwo.blogspot.com/2021/12/when-pscience-becomes-god.html
https://dejavu-times.blogspot.com/2021/06/death-of-science-tyranny-of-pscience.html
https://dejavu-times.blogspot.com/2020/10/pscience.html
https://dejavu-times.blogspot.com/2021/07/a-representative-history-of-pscience.html
2. Why is Licensing Board Threatening Jordan Peterson's License? | Dangers of Emotional Board Members (Dr. Todd Grande | Jan 7, 2023 | Time 15:43 min.) at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9QCdkp5rQHc
Also, amongst many others:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sf74GyNXkWE (Ben Shapiro)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o2AWqfDBRww (Rebel News)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v8dmxtwd1iI (Rebel News)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-qN96lgyMWc (Mikhaila Peterson)
3. Private-Public Partnerships which partnerships can be formal or informal, transparent or secret. https://moc-n-dox.blogspot.com/2022/05/paving-road-to-serfdom-bb-bg-partnershi.html
4. See subheading: Clarifying questions  to the Woke at https://moc-n-dox.blogspot.com/2022/10/jesters-to-rescue.html
5. Idiom adapted to the facts: “What is good for the goose is good for the gander.” or “What is sauce for the [JBP] gander is sauce for the [CPO] geese.”
6. See footnote 1
7. This footnote is to help awaken fearful board members (intimidated by emotional or bullying board members or complainants) to have the courage to stand up and speak out for integrity and freedom of opinion and belief. By caving to the bullies, the CPO has exposed its lapdog status and invited scorn and ridicule. Re-educate yourselves and apologize. Refuse to be a Stanley Milgram obedient administering shock after shock on orders from the “bosses.”
See Stanley Milgram Experiment #17 and many other experiments for breaking group conformity.
“In Experiment 17, three “teachers” were used, one real participant and two confederates. Teacher 1 read the word pairs, Teacher 2 announced whether the answer was right, and Teacher 3 (the real participant) administered the shock. After hearing the learner’s protests following the 150-volt shock, Teacher 1 dramatically refused to participate and moved to the other side of the room. The test continued until Teacher 2 also refused to continue in a dramatic fashion at the 210-volt level. At this point, the experimenter told the real participant to continue the study by himself. Milgram found that 7.5% of the participants refused to go on as soon as Teacher 1 quit, 30% refused to continue immediately after the second teacher quit, and only 10% continued to the end of the study” (p. 3, bold emphasis added).
Replicating Milgram Would People Still Obey Today? | Jerry M. Burger | Santa Clara University | January 2009 | https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/amp-64-1-1.pdf
https://dejavu-times.blogspot.com/2022/02/the-canadian-truckers-freedom-convoy.html

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Co-opting Dysphoria

Once again, we find bullies, narcissists, NPDs,¹ sociopaths, and psychopaths interjecting themselves into the pain and dysphoria of others. The gay community has suffered these interlopers and agitators for years — these bully activists and extremists who flaunt and seek to impose their demands, “difference,” and frequent deviance on a co-opted group as they — the narcissists — pursue endless, narcissistic supply.² Such narcissists care nothing for the genuine dysphoria of honest, struggling souls. They care for nothing but their own supply and have found another nigh perfect cover for endless, “justified” drama and the infinite supply they crave. But their faux-campaign of pretending to promote (i.e., force) acceptance of the marginalized has horribly distorted who the genuine gender-dysphorics are. Many narcissists present whatever false persona they imagine will get the greatest attention and that will excuse or cover their predilection for manipulation, control, and excess. They have an uncanny ability to ferret out issues they can co-opt. Then, they throw everyone under the phobic bus (including other trans people) who do not give the required affirmation, admiration, validation — the requisite “narcissistic supply” —  to their narrative. With an aggressive pursuit of publicity, the infiltrators tar the co-opted community with one brush of absurd claims, gas-lighting, and frequent demonstrative deviance which is offensive to many dysphorics for whom the narcissists pretend to campaign.

The narcissists also have a predatory sense of those who can be empathed or suckered³ into their faux narrative, pretense, and absurdities. As we have seen, doctors, lawyers, judges, professors, politicians, right down to the common Joe and Jane on the street have been seduced into being “supply” and also, into assuming the role of “flying monkeys.”⁴ It's all rather stunning that things have come this far without the “woke” awakening to the false personas of the “tans”-extremists and the self-deception inherent in participatory pathology.

So, if you think you know what trans is through legacy media reports and through extremist and "monkey" posturing, try listening to this:

The Truth About Trans Kids, From Trans Adults
(Blaire White | 32:21 min.) at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f8GtmWxKbO8
Caution: Some profanity.

The faux in phobic is the lie that narcissists and their captured servitors demand of everyone. If we took a survey, we would find that most gay and trans persons just want to live their lives without the publicity and drama that narcissistic infiltrators orchestrate and crave. Most gay and trans are not into bullying, compelled speech, victim-status, blame, mockery, obsessive supply, and all the extremist demands, absurdities, and excesses of the narcissists with their faux-personas. Most gay and trans utterly reject the notion that: “You must do, say, agree with, (etc.) what the trans demand or you are to blame for their suicide.” Suicide is always tragic, but to weaponize it, is toxic, abusive, and unconscionable. 

Please, people, take the time to study this out,⁵ because narcissism has become an escalating mental and social contagion. Compare the narratives and demands of the “alphabet” infiltrators and their servitors with the grandiose, malignant, or communal pathologies of narcissism. (There are several references in the footnotes and thousands online.) Reflect on the role you are playing: are you supporting the faux? spreading the narcissistic infection? perpetuating narcissistic abuse⁶? or do you,  even as a gay or trans person, have the courage to publicly reject the absurdities, extremes, and co-optation?

The pursuit of narcissistic supply and the infliction of narcissistic abuse are not healthy and never will be, not even for an alleged good cause.

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1. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a mental disorder characterized by a life-long pattern of exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a diminished ability to empathize with others' feelings. Narcissistic personality disorder is one of the sub-types of the broader category known as personality disorders.[1][2] It is often comorbid with other mental disorders and associated with significant functional impairment and psychosocial disability. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder
2. Narcissistic Supply: In psychoanalytic theory, narcissistic supply is a pathological or excessive need for attention or admiration from codependents, or such a need in the orally fixated, that does not take into account the feelings, opinions or preferences of other people[citation needed]. The concept was introduced by Otto Fenichel in 1938, to describe a type of admiration, interpersonal support or sustenance drawn by an individual from his or her environment and essential to their self-esteem.] ...
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_supply
3. ● 8 Cues Narcissists Watch For As They Seek Narcissistic Supply (Surviving Narcissism | Aug 20, 2020 | Time 14:25) at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KJMB3O1e0fo
    ● 10 Behaviors That Give Supply To A Narcissist (Surviving Narcissism | Feb 18,2021 | Time 13:59) at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=es80QdJ4pwo
    ● 6 Types of People Who Attract Narcissists (WATCH OUT!) (Psychology Element | Jan 30, 2022 | Time 9:00 min. ) at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WE21U9wbF6Y
4. ● Are You a Narcissist’s Flying Monkey? | https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-autism-spectrum-disorder/202010/are-you-narcissist-s-flying-monkey
    ● Narcissists and Their Flying Monkeys
https://psychcentral.com/pro/exhausted-woman/2019/07/narcissists-and-their-flying-monkeys#1
    ● Are Flying Monkeys Also Narcissists Or Just Cowards? (Surviving Narcissism | Mar 31, 2022 | Time 13:16) at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JCnQslcq7pQ
    ● Narcissists And Their Flying Monkeys (Surviving Narcissism | Oct. 4, 2018 | 12:10 min.) at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xBIauMej5Ok
5. ●  From https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder
DSM-5
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5) describes NPD as possessing at least five of the following nine criteria.[2]
      ▪ A grandiose sense of self-importance
      ▪ Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
      ▪ Believing that they are "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
      ▪ Requiring excessive admiration
      ▪ A sense of entitlement (unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with their expectations)
      ▪ Being interpersonally exploitative (taking advantage of others to achieve their own ends)
      ▪ Lacking empathy (unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others)
      ▪ Often being envious of others or believing that others are envious of them
      ▪ Showing arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
   ●   From https://10faq.com/health/narcissistic-personality-disorder-symptoms/
    [Ten] Narcissistic Personality Disorder Symptoms
       ▪ Symptom #1: Lacking Empathy
       ▪ Symptom #2: Conversation Hogger
Narcissists often want to dominate the conversation, and they often want the conversation to be about their favourite subject: themselves. ... They will also have no problem with interrupting a conversation and change it to their liking. // What’s more is that the narcissist does not like to be corrected in a conversation. They expect you to agree with them all the time, and they don’t like any suggestion of disagreement. Don’t agree with what they are saying and you can expect to be rebuked, corrected and even completely ignored.
     ▪ Symptom #3: Self-Importance
... Narcissists tend to feel as though they deserve special treatment. They expect others to treat them like royalty but see no reason why they should do the same in return.
     ▪ Symptom #4: False Image Projection
The narcissist feels it is important to always give others the impression that they are highly successful [intelligent, smart, special, etc.]. 
     ▪ Symptom #5: Rule Breaking
Narcissists tend to think that they are above ‘normal’ people and this includes the rules that others are expected to adhere to. This includes social rules such as queuing and waiting for your turn as the narcissist seems to think such rules are in place only for other people to abide by. //More serious rules, such as speed limits, are also often broken. ... You can also expect them to try and have others agree to exclude them from the rules. They like to feel assured that they are above such ‘petty’ inconveniences.
     ▪ Symptom #6: Strives For Perfection
The narcissist needs everything to be perfect, all of the time.
     ▪ Symptom #7: Charming
A narcissist will often know how to turn on the charm when it suits them. 
     ▪ Symptom #8: Manipulation
A narcissist will have little problem in manipulating peoples’ thoughts and emotions to suit their needs. They will gladly try and influence other peoples’ decisions and lives with the sole purpose of benefiting themselves. They will gladly use emotional blackmail to manipulate people into doing what they want.
     ▪ Symptom #9: Desire For Control
The narcissist will usually have a strong desire to be in complete control.
     ▪ Symptom #10: Blame
When everything is going well, the narcissist is more than happy to take the plaudits. ... // The narcissistic will look to blame what they can, or who they can, when things are not going well.
6. Narcissistic Abuse:
    ● https://www.rosglasrecovery.com/signs-and-symptoms-of-narcissistic-abuse-syndrome/
    ● The Long Term Impact Of Narcissistic Abuse (Surviving Narcissism | Mar 21, 2022 | Time 14:16) at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZLIWJ17UNZw
    ● Signs You are Victim of Narcissistic Abuse, Not Common Abuse (Stress, Depression Management Webinar) (Prof. Sam Vaknin | Oct 15, 2020 | Time 16:11) at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OAcm_qqw9ts&t=321s
    ● Individuation And True Healing From Narcissistic Abuse | Sam Vaknin Richard Grannon Conversation ( Richard Grannon | Feb 15, 2022 | Time 1:14:45) at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YB8Ji-_E9gE
    ●  9 different ways narcissists lash out at you (Dr. Ramani | 12:07 min.) at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bDQa-q5Se4w

Area 25?

If you

▪ don’t know about “Area 25”;¹

▪ are one (or know a loved one) who can’t “snap out” of melancholy or depression;

▪ are seeking greater understanding of mental illness and mental health;

these broadcasts  from “Ideas with Paul Kennedy” might prove enlightening and life-saving.

Wit's End, Part 1 (54 min.) at http://www.cbc.ca/radio/ideas/wit-s-end-part-1-1.3641153

Wit's End, Part 2 (54 min.) at http://www.cbc.ca/radio/ideas/wit-s-end-part-2-1.3654204

Note added October 28, 2016: Perhaps an “area” to consider more than the physical Area 25 is the spiritual area (arena) explored in a recent post, titled “We are Legion???” at http://dejavu-timestwo.blogspot.ca/2016/10/we-are-legion.html.

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1. “Area 25” is dealt with beginning circa minute 44:46 of Wit’s End, Part 2.

Love Canal* ~ An Analogy

(Thoughts engendered from too much reading and seeing.)
(If you do not remember “Love Canal,” see the note at * below.)

If 22,000 tons of buried toxic waste can poison an entire community and make it uninhabitable, what might 22,000 arrows of abuse do to a single soul? But can we even number the wounds if the victim’s mind replays and relives the trauma, ad infinitum, as even one horrific event becomes an endless conveyor of pain? And if one event can trigger endless pain, what will chronic abuse, bullying, and denigration do? What do abused children carry into adulthood? What happens if they find themselves in a relationship that incessantly affirms a severely damaged self-image? And what happens if an un-abused child grows up to live for decades thereafter with an abusing spouse or partner?

For far too long, science has ignored or minimized the consequences of trauma and bullying, as is outlined in a speech by Bessel van der Kolk, MD:

Childhood Trauma, Affect Regulation, and Borderline Personality Disorder [BPD]
(Yale University conference; Time: 1:09:06)
at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N2NTADxDuhA

But everywhere we are seeing the “fall out,” not just of childhood traumas, but of psychopathic bullying¹ in adult relationships.

If one lives for decades within a toxic, abusive dumping-ground, do we really think there is no corrosive, consuming, creeping, enduring poison? Why do we see increasing numbers of wounded souls acting-out and acting-in?

Why is there still so little recognition—so little help for emotional dysregulation?²—for those living along a continuum that stretches all the way to what some call Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and beyond? Some manifest as classic-BPD (acting-out); others as quiet-BPD (acting-in). If you or a loved one (an estimated 18 million in America) are enduring many of following symptoms, can you recognize and/or admit the possibility of a toxic base that is NOT your fault,³ but somehow your legacy (and your challenge)?

Persistent feelings of	Manifestations of
deep sadness	extreme sensitivity to invalidation
worthlessness	extreme sensitivity to rejection
not deserving	mood-dependent memory
emptiness	black and white thinking
numbness	idealizing and judging
distrust	paranoia
loneliness	blaming others
hopelessness	difficulty living “in the present”
fear of abandonment	clinging or pushing away
deep rage	impulsivity
“no one loves me”	mood swings
“no one can understand”	problems with attention, focus, concentration
“I don’t know who I am.”	thinking distortions
chronic emotional pain	self-harm
self-hatred or loathing	thoughts of suicide
shame	amnesia
guilt	overwhelming emotions

These are separate, incomplete lists and not correlated between feelings and manifestations.
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Despite all the above (and more), can you begin to believe there is help and healing—if you can be open to it?

Can you understand the unbearable tension of opposites (the dialectic) that oft “rules” your life?—a tension that can play out in several ways, including:

»  On the one hand, if you are in an abusive relationship, your soul cries out for love and affirmation, BUT your self-image of being worthless, unlovable, undeserving, etc., etc., etc. is being affirmed or validated—abuse upon abuse.

»  On the other hand, if you have found someone who truly loves you and treats you lovingly, your damaged self-image may find it almost impossible to trust that love. You begin to interpret expressions of love as phony, manipulative, agenda-driven, or you conjure, provoke, mis-remember, or forget things in order to ease the tension or “prove” your negative self-image. You idealize relationship and cannot bear the inevitable disappointments. If self-awareness is not forthcoming, that tension between accepting genuine love versus your self-image cannot be sustained. One of the polarities has to give, and too often it is NOT the self-image that you have lived with for decades. You split from the love (the contradiction) and for a time find relief from the tension, but it cannot endure for the human soul cannot fully live without the hope of love. And so you may try again. And again. And again—

Thus, in millions of damaged lives, the “Love Canal” that was designed to carry living water has become a waste dump covered over by a leaking subconscious. And so, without awareness, you keep breathing-in and ingesting the toxicity that permeates the air and ground water of your life; and you continue to rage at the pain, the poisoned relationships, the fear, and brokenness of your life.

If only you could see the dialectic. If only you could move off the toxic dump. If only you could acknowledge how you are letting the past poison your present; how it will forever poison your future unless you can forgive⁴ (however excruciating), and let the past go—the only way to healing. Your past or current abuser’s cruelty is either a choice or an illness (or a mix). Your choice can be to move forward toward healing and healthy love.

If only you could say to yourself:

“No wonder I feel this way. No wonder I behave the way I do. No wonder I have the thoughts I do. No wonder I am so angry and reactive. No wonder my life has been such an expanse of recurring emptiness, pain, and misery⁵—
“BUT, in spite of all that, I do not have to self-abuse by believing abusers; by remembering or replaying their abuse; by self-harming, by allowing.
“I don’t need or want to live this way. I don’t need or want to feel, think, and do the things I do. I want and need to trust in healing and healthy love. There are proven therapies.⁶  I will seek them out in wisdom.⁷ I have healthy options.
“I am moving off the toxic dump, NOW & FOREVER.”

Why not begin in this month of abuse awareness and prevention?—or any day you read this for every day is a good day to begin—a good day to continue moving forward.

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* Love Canal was a neighborhood in Niagara Falls, New York, located in the LaSalle section of the city. It officially covers 36 square blocks in the far southeastern corner of the city. [Love Canal came from the last name of William T. Love, who in the early 1890s envisioned a canal connecting the Niagara River to Lake Ontario. … He envisioned a perfect urban area called "Model City" and prepared a plan with a community of parks and homes along Lake Ontario. His plan was never realized. He began digging the canal and built a few streets and homes when his funds were depleted. Only one mile (1.6 km) of the canal, about 50 feet (15 m) wide and 10 to 40 feet (3 m to 12 m) deep, stretching northward from the Niagara River, was dug. … With the project abandoned, the canal gradually filled with water. The local children swam there in the summer and skated in the winter. In the 1920s, the canal became a dump site for the City of Niagara Falls, with the city regularly unloading its municipal refuse into the pit.] By the 1940s, Hooker Electrochemical Company (later known as Hooker Chemical Company), founded by Elon Hooker, began searching for a place to dump the large quantity of chemical waste it was producing.”] … In the mid-1970s Love Canal became the subject of national and international attention after it was revealed in the press that the site had formerly been used to bury 22,000 tons of toxic waste by Hooker Chemical Company (now Occidental Petroleum Corporation). / Hooker Chemical sold the site to the Niagara Falls School Board in 1953 for $1, with a deed explicitly detailing the presence of the waste, and including a liability limitation clause about the contamination. The construction efforts of housing development, combined with particularly heavy rainstorms, released the chemical waste, leading to a public health emergency and an urban planning scandal. Hooker Chemical was found to be negligent in their disposal of waste, though not reckless in the sale of the land, in what became a test case for liability clauses. The dumpsite was discovered and investigated by the local newspaper, the Niagara Falls Gazette, from 1976 through the evacuation in 1978. / Ten years after the incident, New York State Health Department Commissioner David Axelrod stated that Love Canal would long be remembered as a "national symbol of a failure to exercise a sense of concern for future generations." [Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_Canal ]
See also http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/windsor/toxic-love-canal-waste-no-longer-to-be-disposed-of-in-ontario-1.2874554

1. http://dejavu-timestwo.blogspot.ca/2013/08/bullying-family-affair.html
http://www.dejavu-times.blogspot.ca/2014/05/a-plague-of-psychopaths.html
http://www.dejavu-times.blogspot.ca/2014/01/a-plea-to-bully-pulpit.html
2. As one lecturer reported: In her last year of school, a successful, visiting psychiatrist told the class that a tip to having a successful practice was to “screen out the borderlines.” See, BPD-related cognitive-perceptual difficulties and challenges in their diagnosis and treatment (min. 25:30 to 26:17 at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_t_NqEP80GE ) (A note of great caution: This writer believes there are safer and far more effective therapies than the medication regimes this lecturer seems to recommend for there are great dangers, mostly unacknowledged, in psychoactive medications. Refer to http://www.dejavu-times.blogspot.ca/2015/01/a-plea-to-therapists-everywhere.html .)
3. An estimated “87% of subjects with BPD had histories of severe childhood abuse and/or neglect.” See location reference beginning at minute 14:03 ~ Childhood Trauma, Affect Regulation, and Borderline Personality Disorder [BPD] by Bessel van der Kolk, MD (Yale University conference) at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N2NTADxDuhA
4. Forgiveness does not mean that justice and judgment should not be vigorously advocated to enforce accountability and to prevent further abuses. Lawful justice and judgment should be pursued, but forgiveness may mean you forego your interpretation of what is just and give it over to God. If you don’t believe in God, (which may be the case for many abused), try to leave justice and judgment to the law (however flawed) in order to free yourself from the poison.
5. Here are four brief expressions by sufferers:
   •  The quiet (inward acting) borderline (time: 5:37) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v23y1MNsBro
   •  The Quiet Borderline: The Forgotten Ones (time: 5:59) at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3R7VLKXKVPk
   •  Borderline Personality Disorder - Behind the Mask (time: 10:19) chttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J2RRaC-99r0&list=WL&index=68
   •  Rethinking BPD: A Patient's View (time: 8:14) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SDaHFnpsWzE
6. Read about and “YouTube” Marsha Linehan and her Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Here are a few, informative pertinent sites:
   •   Rethinking BPD: A Clinician's View [Marsha Linehan] (time. 25:03) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7KiihIE0d0c
   •   The Paradox of Love & Hate: Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder - BPD Relationship Expert (Ross Rosenberg; time: 13:19)); https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zD3XHUnrjyY
   •   The Outlook for Borderline Personality Disorder (time. 3:54) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PT2z49biG28
   •   Make use of scripture-based healing paradigms such as that taught by Joyce Meyer in these references and others: Receiving Emotional Healing, Part 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QVDFTPIlaB4&index=76&list=WL ; and Receiving Emotional Healing, Part 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SFdJHqRNWNA
7.  Wisdom: Again you are referred to videos found at the Déjà Vu post on “medication” titled, A Plea to Therapists, Everywhere at http://www.dejavu-times.blogspot.ca/2015/01/a-plea-to-therapists-everywhere.html .